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Holding Healthy Boundaries When the Upsets Are Big

Jan 30
6 min

Holding Healthy Boundaries When the Upsets Are Big

We had one of the hardest moments in our relationship the other night. Lately I’ve come to realize that even clearer boundaries need to be offered to my toddler. While I’m great at meeting her emotions, and staying present with the big feels, inside of that I’m recognizing the need to make sure she’s feeling an even more stable container. I’m bringing in even more of my divine father to my parenting. Qualities of agendaless presence, stability, and clear consistent reliable b

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What is Attunement?

Jan 25
5 min

What is Attunement?

We hear this word but what does it actually mean? This is a skill I share with clients and often coach partners in how to attune to one another. It’s also paramount in parenting. Attunement is the ability to meet a person exactly where they are at, and be with them in their state, in presence, empty of any agenda to change their current state. Easier said than done, right? Well, that’s where I find many have misconceptions about this word. It is an act of being not of doing.

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Self-reliance vs. Self-regulation

Jan 10
4 min

Self-reliance vs. Self-regulation

What’s the difference between self-reliance and self-regulation? It’s so easy as a parent to feel our needs don’t matter. Our awareness is so often on our children and their needs that we can forget about our own. This may register as healthy parenting patterns. And while staying present to our children's needs is vital for them to feel safe, met, seen and responded to, your inability to tune into your own needs may stem from ways you weren’t met as a child. We come into

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What Do Children Need When They're Dysregulated?

Dec 9, 2022
1 min

What Do Children Need When They're Dysregulated?

What do children need most when they’re dysregulated? When their emotions are full. Their upsets big. Their anger intense. They need to know we are right here with them. That we’re not going away. That their big feels have room to be here. And we will be here with them. They need to feel this. Empty words of reassurance fall flat if we’re not also embodied in this. What does that look like? A cultivated capacity to be with our own big emotions. An open heart of empathy and a

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Supporting Our Gifted, Highly Sensitive Children

Dec 2, 2022
2 min

Supporting Our Gifted, Highly Sensitive Children

What if your highly sensitive child is shining the light of awareness to the places in you that want to come into resolution? Parts of you that are bound energy waiting to be presenced and held so that they can unbind and return to your innate state of wellbeing. These places in you whose needs were so unmet that they developed survival strategies of protection, disassociation, managing, and freezing to maintain “love” and “connection” with your primary caregivers. As we begi

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Parenting With Polarity

Nov 14, 2022
2 min

Parenting With Polarity

These terms feminine and masculine are thrown around so much these days. As a parent I’m really tuned in to where and how these polarities serve in union for the wellbeing of me and my inner world and my child. I feel the term masculine represents pure awareness. An agendaless presence that is all pervasive and all sustaining. Here...no matter what. An unshakable ground that is like a stage for the dynamic aspect of reality (the feminine) to dance upon. This presence offers a

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Honoring Emotions

Oct 19, 2022
2 min

Honoring Emotions

I often hear how toddlers are run by their emotions. This is true and what I notice is the importance of two things with this. Being fully present to allow for the intelligence of the emotions to move through the body, and offering context for the emotions either while it’s occurring or after. Why do both of these things matter? Not trying to change my daughter’s experience reflects respect and honoring of her experience. Telling her she’s ok or not to cry is dismissive to he

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Holding Healthy Masculine as a Mother

Oct 19, 2022
2 min

Holding Healthy Masculine as a Mother

The healthy masculine holds an agenda free container for the arising dynamism of the feminine. Let me be clear here, that I’m not referring to men and women, or gender or sex. I’m speaking to the energetics that divine masculine (yang) and divine feminine (yin) contain. I believe we all are the holy union of these two polarities, regardless of what gendered body we choose. ☯️ One of the awakened qualities of the masculine is a container. One that is not stagnant, but ever-pre

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Soaking in Those Quiet Moments

Dec 16, 2020
1 min

Soaking in Those Quiet Moments

The stillness of my child as she sleeps, matching the calm from the snowy blanket on the land. As the external quiets, I’m able to tune back into my inner landscape... and simply listen. These are the moments that truly keep me connected to Source and support me to parent from a place of responsiveness and love, rather than reactivity and impatience. Self-care is not a luxury as a mama, but a key part in thriving, for us both. And while it may not be as long as I might like,

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Empowering Choices

Dec 2, 2020
1 min

Empowering Choices

Blueberries or bananas? Would you like to walk, or have me carry you? This shirt or that one? “That one” she delightedly exclaims as she picks the one in my left hand. Such a simple moment but a poignant moment of choosing. Reaffirming to her that she’s the co-author of her life. And has been since she was born (well, actually in utero, I was deeply listening to her then too). As the neural pathways in her brain begin to develop, and ego identity continues to grow she knows

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Another New Phase of Development

Nov 5, 2020
5 min

Another New Phase of Development

Once again, Anaiya has hit a new phase of development. I notice there’s an adjustment period to these shifts as more independence is emerging in her. And it’s timed with me returning to seeing clients more full-time. As I’m spending more time away from her, I notice I’m tasting what feels like freedom that I haven’t had in these past 18 months. And it feels good! Not only is she moving into more independence, but so is her mama. An aspect of me has been so hungry for this and

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Anaiya Turns One and a Half!

Oct 12, 2020
3 min

Anaiya Turns One and a Half!

Anaiya just turned one and a half. In baby age this feels significant. She’s shifted into 18 month old clothes and shoes. But beyond the physical growth what’s got my attention is this next phase of her personality coming online, especially through verbal communication. We’ve been in a symbiotic non-verbal communication since she was born (and in the womb). I can read her body and energy and usually know what she needs. Her facial expressions and reaching and pointing speak v

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Getting Current

Sep 9, 2020
3 min

Getting Current

I’ve been in a practice called Elimination Communication with Anaiyana. From two weeks after she was born, I began paying attention to her elimination cues, responding to them by holding her over the sink and making a “psssst” sound as she peed and pooped. This practice supports her in her body awareness as well as deepening our communication and her feeling my responsiveness and honoring of her needs. She’s been consistently peeing in the sink for many months, as I hold her

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Preverbal Communication with Love and Respect

Aug 14, 2020
3 min

Preverbal Communication with Love and Respect

I am continually in awe of the channels of communication occurring between my child and I. Yes, she exists in a small human body, but her consciousness is anything but tiny. I speak to my daughter believing that we can communicate and she will understand. I treat her with respect and the awareness that while she is re-learning this human experience, her consciousness exists eternally. Recently, she began the habit of twiddling one nipple with her little fingers while nursing

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Family Rituals on the River

Jul 4, 2020
2 min

Family Rituals on the River

This was such a special time together, celebrating new life growing inside of my sister’s womb. Our trip to the Yuba last month was spectacular. Hiking everyday with Anaiya strapped to my back, and Jennie’s dog Sunny at our feet, keeping our pack together, finding our perfect secluded beach at the shores of these glorious waters. Splashing, swimming, floating, drifting, we joyfully played all day in the full summer river. What a time to connect in with her growing baby, find

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Re-Union with Love (A poem)

May 13, 2020
1 min

Re-Union with Love (A poem)

Love comes knocking at my door. Go away! You’re too light Too playful Too easeful I must face the shadows with a fine tooth comb I must plunge the depths And feel I am working hard To meet myself Ahh I see, says love These are the ways you’ve been taught. I applaud your courage, To even have the willingness And desire to uncover. To peer beneath the dark rocks And engage with the dirt The worms The bugs The maggots The muck But I ask you when you do this With what eyes are yo

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Transitions (A Poem)

Apr 18, 2020
3 min

Transitions (A Poem)

Snow blankets the ground Perhaps our final Colorado springtime dump The bright blue skies and piercing sun lapping up the The white covering Determined to guide the spring to bloom Transitioning snow to water To bring forth new life It’s quiet here No planes in the sky Except for one small private jet A recreational voyage The whir of its motor Cracking across the silent sky The geese have mated Resting in pairs Waiting for their offspring to arrive calling across the pon

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Anaiya's First Birthday

Apr 13, 2020
2 min

Anaiya's First Birthday

No one could possibly explain to me the amount of love I would feel for my child. It’s a love that grows continuously, my heart often swelling as more love cascades through me as our connection blossoms. I loved being pregnant and didn’t want it to end. I remember my wise friend, who has two children of her own, mischievously smiling at me while I was pregnant, like she was sitting on the best kept secret. A secret that would only be revealed once I birthed my baby. And I ge

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Mothering Through Unprecedented Times

Apr 5, 2020
5 min

Mothering Through Unprecedented Times

Almost a year later from when this precious angel decided to bless us Earthbound, I’m reminded of our first forty days at home with her. It was quite similar to this time of shelter in place. Homebound and simple, while being in the discovery of who this being was. She’s obviously way more active a year later! She’s on the verge of walking and relishing in exploring everything. I get to witness her experiencing her body, her senses, her sounds, her environment, and her desire

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10 Months Out of the Womb

Feb 27, 2020
3 min

10 Months Out of the Womb

The human gestation period is early compared to other mammals. Many other mammals are birthed ready stand and locomote. Not humans. They are born so completely dependent on their mamas. They very much need to be held often to support their body and brain development. This is the marsupial phase of postpartum. They need lots of skin to skin time so they can regulate their nervous system to their caregivers. This deep dependance allows for gradual independence in natural timing

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